Kevin Ferrin

4 yrs

Now look what the Left invented, and propagated by Deseret News, no less.

https://www.deseret.com/indept....h/2021/2/7/22254802/

#deseretnews

4 yrs

Often we will do almost anything to hang onto our victimhood, even if it means destroying something we treasure.

C. Terry Warner, "Bonds That Make Us Free"

But let us go one step further and consider what would happen if utopian changes were ever achieved, for instance on the sociopolitical level. It would, first of all, presuppose that the ideal society would be composed of individuals who in their ideal and equal degree of maturity would all be thinking, feeling, and acting alike – a fallacy which conjures up the nightmarish image of totally sterile, stagnant masses or of von Neumannian robots, deprived of that vital tension which comes only from the natural diversity of men. And this is the even more frightening aspect: that change, and with it any stirring of individuality and creativity, would have to be outlawed, for it could only be a return from perfection to imperfection. This, then, would be an Orwellian society in which those who nowadays clamor loudest for utopian change would be the first to disappear behind barbed wire or the walls of asylums. The vicious circle would be definitively closed and the ideal solution would have become the Final Solution.

"Change," Watzlawick, Weakland, and Fisch

4 yrs

By making victims of ourselves, we accuse and abuse other people. We make them out to be heartless victimizes, and THAT is a very victimizing thing to do to them. We display ourselves to suffering at their hands. And we evade acknowledging our mistreatment of them by accusing them of mistreating us. Though motivated more by fear of them than malice, we nevertheless can do them damage.

You can see the violence in this. When the violence is not outwardly expressed in acts and in words, it is perpetrated in the mind and heart. Violence is a mark of the self-betraying way of life.

C. Terry Warner, "Bonds That Make Us Free"

4 yrs

[B]y Our self-victimizations, we exaggerate others' destructiveness and our own helplessness. Mental health professionals often speak of clients "horribilizing" or "awfulizing" or "catastrophizing" their situations or the conduct of others, or "minimizing" their own contribution to their problems. These invented and admittedly awkward terms attempt to capture the way we exaggerate the distinctiveness of others and the losses we think they are inflicting upon us.

We can see that it costs us a lot to secure evidence of our justification and personal worth. We have got to feel mistreated or inconvenienced or stoop to cowardice or petty self-absorption. The worse we think we're treated or the more we feel put upon or helpless, the more certain we are that we're doing the best that can reasonably be expected of us. FOR SELF JUSTIFICATION, WE ARE WILLING TO PAY ALMOST ANY PRICE – AND VERY OFTEN THE HIGHER THE PRICE, THE MORE JUSTIFIED WE FEEL. that's why we typically do not respond favorably when someone suddenly offers to reduce the price [...]. [... G]ood gestures threaten to deflate our justification; we feel a keen pang of disappointment.

C. Terry Warner, "Bonds That Make Us Free"