Atheist Attack: "Matthew 22:39 commands 'You shall love your neighbor as yourself,' but in 1st Corinthians 5:13 it says to 'Purge the evil person from among you.' It is pretty easy to love your neighbor if you make sure none of your neighbors are someone you don't like. What sort of God are you following anyway?" (Quotes from ESV)
Christian: "Why is removing someone from within a Christian church unloving?"
Atheist: "So you like it when people throw you out of a place?"
Christian: "No, of course not. I don't like it when a doctor gives me a shot either, but I don't question his motives just because I don't like it."
Atheist: "So, you think it is OK to give someone the boot?"
Christian: "Sure. Doesn't everyone?"
Atheist: "I don't."
Christian: "You wouldn't have the police remove a rowdy, uninvited drunk from your daughter's wedding?"
Atheist: "Certainly I would, but I wouldn't be so hypocritical as to think I was loving the drunk."
Christian: "So, if you were most interested in the drunk's welfare, you would leave him alone and allow him to disturb everyone else?"
Atheist: "How does it help the drunk to call the police on him?"
Christian: "I used to be a jail chaplain. Lots of the men I met in there were grateful someone called the police and stopped them from going further down the wrong path."
Atheist: "I don't believe you. Most of those people just do it over and over again. Jail doesn't help anyone; it just gets them out of the way for a while. It is like a penalty box at a hockey game to them."
Christian: "That is a common misconception, because most of the people in jail have been there multiple times. What you don’t realize is that most people wise up after one trip to jail. If you look at the statistics for recidivism rates, you will see that even for sexually based crimes, which are famous for extremely high recidivism, most people do not re-offend after the first prison term. Jail is very unpleasant and most people learn their lesson. They do what it takes to avoid it.
"You do make one good point. For a few people jail is equivalent to a hockey player in a penalty box. They have no shame, regret or remorse for their actions or are so unthinking that they can not see the relationship between their behavior and their consequences. Those folks seldom change. But there is no way to know which people fall into what category.
"So, to your point, jail is still the best thing for those people. At least there they can not harm anyone. Perhaps eventually they will grow to be grateful for being stopped, just as I have seen many others in their situation. That is the idea Paul is talking about in the 1 Corinthians passage you quoted. Look at the context."
"You are to deliver this man to Satan for the destruction of the flesh, so that his spirit may be saved in the day of the Lord." (1 Corinthians 5:5 ESV)
The idea isn’t vengeance but restoration through discipline — removing him from fellowship so he feels the loss and repents. Later, in 2 Corinthians 2:6–8, Paul urges the church to forgive and comfort the man once he’s repented, 'lest he be overwhelmed by excessive sorrow.'
I think somewhere during the last five paragraphs the atheist quit listening.
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Matthew 18:17 “If he refuses to listen to them, tell it to the church. And if he refuses to listen even to the church, let him be to you as a Gentile and a tax collector.” ESV
Matt 18:17 & 22:39 are not a contradiction. Church discipline can be loving when it protects others and aims to awaken repentance, not inflict vengeance. Exclusion is temporary and should give way to forgiveness, comfort, and restoration when the offender repents. (2 Cor 2:6-8)